feminism / May 2015: Women's Bodies / sexism

Why Do We Still Slut Shame?

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There are a lot of things in today’s culture that I dislike, one being the act of slut shaming.

Slut shaming: An unfortunate phenomenon in which people degrade or mock a person (most commonly a woman) because she/he enjoys having sex, has sex a lot, or may even just be rumoured to participate in sexual activity.

One of the most important words in that definition is “rumoured”, treating a person differently because of their rumoured sexual activities (or their actual activity) is just wrong on so many levels.

Firstly, what somebody does in their personal life is their business alone and we have no right to speculate or assume. Secondly, we’re all complex individuals worth so much more than an ignorant label based on an assumption. We shouldn’t be judged, or judge others by something as simple as what clothes they wear. It genuinely saddens me to know that some people use this as a means to attack women on a personal level, opinions are great and everybody is entitled to one but you can’t equate the clothes that somebody wears with how many people (if any) they’ve slept with.

I’m very aware that men slut shame more than women  (I go to school with a lot of ignorant teenage boys) but I find that the comments women make  can feel worse as they are often harsher and more personal. Society has a part to play in this as we are constantly being pitted against one another and unfortunately many feel the need to drag others down. There are a number of reasons why some people still slut shame maybe its because of low self esteem or perhaps its the fact that we have become so accustomed to using derogatory words towards each other.

There is a fantastic quote in the movie Mean Girls that hits the nail on the head. “You all have got to stop calling each other sluts and whores. It just makes it okay for guys to call you sluts and whores.”

It’s the 21st century, are we not capable of being decent human beings yet? I think it’s about time we were all a little kinder to one another. Think about all the time you’re wasting putting someone down when you could be supporting and raising them up instead.

Don’t judge or put somebody down to feel better about yourself, it says more about you than it does them.

Rufaro Mazarura
Writer, video maker, feminist and crazy Taylor Swift fan.

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